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For NetPbm, yes you need to unpack it. Do you have shell access? I had best luck uploading it and then unpacking it, but obviously you can only do that from the shell...

And enjoy your weather! We've got a beautiful day, but the neighbors took the opportunity to burn green wood, so the neighborhood stinks. :(

50 and light rain down here. Memorial Day is most always good for a nice little snowstorm, and it has been cold enough to get snow at around 7,000 feet on the Fourth of July.

Then again, it's sometimes 60 degrees in January. Ya gotta love it.

You can unpack it first with something that works for .tar.gz files. PowerArchiver is a good option. :)

http://www.powerarchiver.com

I'll pipe in with parental advice (although I'm not a parent, but I have worked with teenagers for the past 12 years or so through a youth ministry and my church youth group)...

1. Definitely take away computer privileges from her. Remind her that it's a privilege.

2. I would say a phone call to his parents wouldn't hurt. Who knows who else he's sending the pictures to. He's old enough that it could be the beginnings of a larger problem later. *no pun intended*

3. On the legalities, he's a minor while she's of age. So that couldan ugly can of worms. I think that technically he's sending child pr0n, which is illegal. But since it's himself and he's the one sending it, who knows? It couldn't hurt to ask the question. But I'd talk to his parents first to see how they plan to handle it before threatening to sic the law on him.

4. Be encouraged that there are many miles between them! One of the girls in my small group Bible study was being pursued by a 23 year old she worked with. She just turned 18. Her parents grounded her and made her quit the job, but she had a couple girl friends who were helping her meet with him anyway. When her parents found out, they started talking to the police and he finally backed off. And she was grounded again - from everything - phone, computer, job, etc. She was basically under house arrest for a couple of months. Oh, and she's home schooled! But she learned her lesson and is steering clear of boys these days.

Probably a good thing he's in Texas, huh?

My blood pressure just shot up 20 points.

ok, now there's just a couple other things you need to do.

up notepad. without typing anything, save as. save as config.php then save again as .htaccess (those filenames are exact).

your ftp program and upload those two files (which should be empty) to your gallery folder. in your ftp program, chmod both of these to 777 and the setup folder to 755.

If you don't know how to do that, here's how. Usually your right-click the file on the server side that you want to chmod, then go to chmod or properties. For 777 permissions, make sure that ALL of the boxes are checked. For 755 permissions, leave the "write" boxes for group and all unchecked but check everything else.

That'll allow you to finish the setup.

If you have any more problems, I'm still more than happy to help you out. :)

(Make sure to chmod those files back to 644 for the config.php and .htaccess and to 0 for the setup folder when you're finished.)

Write to Acidman. He's almost certainly got pictures of himself unclad, he's generous to a fault, and he's older than I am fercrissake.

Then substitute the Acid shots for the ones of the offending b/f in the dead of night.

I really can't see how this can fail. :)

DON'T ask Acidman for those pics! Your child would be scarred for life. Trust me. I've seen the thing up close and personal.

The fact that the kid's in TX is a good thing. I'd have a talk with my daughter and tell her that this is NOT okay. Take away the computer, call the boy's parents, and start having moretalks with your sweet child. It can't hurt.

Did you ever get Gallery working? Let me know if not, we can keep workin on it. :)

Re: the teenager thing...

Well, I may make myself unpopular by noting this, but when someone talks about "teenager-rearing", I expect you're having problems with a 13 or 14-year-old. Your daughter *is* 18. I very much doubt she didn't know what male genitalia looked like--you can't watch TV for five minutes without seeing them.

I became sexually active when I was 18 years old. Hell, I got married when I was 18 years old. After three years of being sexually active and two-and-a-half years of being married, I don't regret either. I didn't become a crazed nymphomaniac the first time I saw a racy picture. I think activity of this sort is normal.

The law in the situation is complicated a little by the fact that the boy's 17. I disagree completely with the assessment that people are unable to make a decision when they're 17 years and 364 days old, and that the extra day suddenly transforms one into an adult. But the law says he's a minor, and depending on local laws, that can get complicated. It could be considered child pornography, perhaps, but that's doubtful considering he took and sent them.

Your ideas of what is appropriate at what age might be entirely different than mine. Although I've come to loathe the word "liberal", in the case of my views on sexuality, it is the only word that applies. I see no problem with consensual behavior of any sort, provided that the parties are rational and educated. I think that a well-educated and mature 16-year-old is probably more ready for sexual activity than a 25-year-old who's cloistered and sheltered all her life up to the wedding night.

I suppose for me to give any advice or insight, I would have to understand your views. If you're willing to let me know what your thoughts are, I might be able to give you less general ideas. :) (Feel free to email if you don't want this discussion to continue on-blog, and it won't hurt my feelings if you delete this comment if you find it offensive.) :)

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Wowsers! Hope you don't take this advice mi amigo, "I see no problem with consensual behavior of any sort, provided that the parties are rational and educated." That certainly casts a WIDE net. My mom is rational and educated and so am I. . .maybe WE should hook up? Come on, you sound like a shill for NAMBLA. I hope you meant that you approve of consensual behavior between consenting ADULTS. As you wrote it it sounds like you have no age/familial/species limits, just as long as the parties are "rational and educated." Educated about what, the times tables? Who is the 16th president of the US? Being able to roll over on command? If that's the case then maybe I should start cruising the local grade school (or animal shelter?) for my next hook up? Maybe this post is kinda harsh but damn. . .think about and read what you write in here before you go posting it. Sheesh!

Anyway Dave, I would call the kid's parents and tell them what happened. Then talk to Ashley and explain the birds and the bees to her. Talk to her about contraception and possibly get her on the pill. We can be in denial all we want about our kids sexuality (kinda like we know our parents do it but we don't wanna KNOW they do it) but it doesn't change the fact that they are sexual beings and/or sexually active. And I'm quite sure you don't wanna be "Granpa Dave" before you turn 40. At least you have some distance between them for now. Kids can be short-sighted. . .she doesn't see that this is prolly the first of many boyfriends and she needs to be selfish about her future. Explain the realities of dating/relationships (how FLEETING they are at this age) and especially STDs and pregnancy. Help her understand that she needs to concentrate on her own future right now.

Good luck. . .

Everyone: Really, I appreciate your input and advice. Predictably, I fall somewhere in between the two poles...rest assured, we are dealing with the situation...the guardian/grandmother of the offending boy has been contacted, and we have counseled/reprimanded our daughter ad nauseum.

Thanks.